I moved to Atlanta for college and quickly got into a relationship with a guy there, "joe". a little background info: I nearly drowned a few years ago and ever since then I've had a horrible phobia of water, not like rain or drinking water, just being immersed in water..which is why I cannot approach pools or beaches. Ok so Joe and I had been together for about 4 months, everything was going great, when he mentions he has a pool at his house, would I like to drive there one weekend with him? I tell him about my phobia and how I dont even have a swimsuit because I cannot do it. He starts whining like a child, 'but I really like swimming! it's so nice, it's heated and at night you can look up at the stars." and I tell him it sure sounds lovely but I just cannot get near water! He starts getting angry and says "you havent even seen it, how can you say you wont like it, it's so so nice!" and I'm repeating, the main aspect is the pool, and that nixes the whole idea no matter how nice the stars and trees and everything else is! He threatens to break up with me and (I dont know why I did this, I shouldve ended it) but I say fine I'll sit by the edge and put my feet in the very shallow end so only my toes are wet because I am terrified of the feeling of water so I wouldnt go in. He says fine and we go and I put my toes in while he gets completely in. I'm not feeling great and I tell him so and I want to get away from the water, I get panicky just seeing it. He gets FURIOUS! "why cant you do this for me?! this would be a great way to show me you really love me and you're not going to try!!" I tell him I cant do it for anybody, it's not my fault, I'd really like to swim but I just cant. and he says "you'll have to face your fear sooner or later, dont be a coward" and I get up and start to walk away because I'm furious now, and he grabs my legs and pulls me into the pool!!!! For some people that might not be so bad but it's like locking a claustrophobic in a closet! I screamed and ran all the way back to school (we had DRIVEN..it was FAR!) and changed my number because he kept calling. Now he still sends me angry letters and emails, meanwhile I have horrible horrible nightmares about the water.