Dating Tip: Overcoming Dating Shyness.

To most of us in the dating business, we have learned to see shyness as cute. The people who suffer from it or with it are most often very sincere, warm, caring people. Maybe just a little too much so.

The unfortunate part is, though, that they almost never get to show off these wonderful character traits and especially to the people they want so much to meet, to talk to, and to date.

Because some of the prime traits are self-effacement, usually accompanied by lack of self-confidence, a growing problem with self-esteem, and insecurity, shy people often assume defensive postures like being aloof and unapproachable. So, they most often don't even try to meet the people who would be best suited to them.

Left unresolved, these shyness characteristics can grow into jealousy and uncontrollable anxiety. Not good!

There are lots of 'exercises' to help the shy person come out of his / her shell. Most of them don't work.

Just telling the shy person to 'go do it' certainly is not going to work and will likely make the problem even worse.

The one suggestion I make from everything we've seen and done is hypnosis, more specifically... self-hypnosis.

Since shyness is self effacment, a mental force, it would make sense that the solution is in the mind of the sufferer.

When the shy person comes out of their shell, they can then begin to make the kind of relationships that are more in touch with their personal gifts rather than just taking the first path that comes their way. Then, two people will suffer from the one problem.

I see a lot of people come through Rosey's. A lot of what I see on the profiles disturbs me quite a bit... not from what they write but from how deeply seated some of the problems are.

Shyness is one of them. And, it is one of the more destructive ones because of the longer term implications.